Boundaries

“Then God said, “Let there be a space between the waters, to separate the waters of the heavens from the waters of the earth.””
‭‭Genesis‬ ‭1:6‬ ‭

Boundaries.

We all need them. From property lines to protecting crown land to defining a marriage to creating a proper work-life balance, boundaries are crucial to harmony.

Don’t you think it’s interesting that God created light – designing the principles and physics behind energy and heat – and then set up a colossal boundary between the atmosphere and the earth?

Hmmmmm.

Yesterday we thought about how our words call things into existence because we are created in God’s image.

Today, because we are created in God’s image, we could think about setting up boundaries.

A child doesn’t know she is a separate being from mama for quite a while. She doesn’t know when she plays peekaboo that she is a permanent ‘other’ yet.

Then she turns two and learns the power of ‘no’. Her likes and dislikes are coming through, loud and clear.

She is setting boundaries, learning where she is different and separate from mama.

But she needs to know that screaming her every intention is not a happy method of securing her boundaries.

She will learn from mama that being firm but fair is better. She needs to grow into herself.

She will do that for a lifetime!

Just as God clearly separated the moisture in the atmosphere and set up cloud and wind patterns to govern it by, so too we need to learn some separation. We need boundaries that will mark our territory, and create a safe space for us to work and play in.

But our culture is terrible at boundary setting. We set boundaries for things we don’t need, and allow the wrong things to pass in unchecked and unmonitored.

Pain also comes into the picture, teaching us to protect ourselves. Our knee-jerk instinct is to build walls to block the bad from coming in.

And in the process, block out the good that needs to come in.

It takes a lifetime of practice to build walls with doors and windows. We need to be safe, absolutely. But we also need to be able to allow the blessings to flow in.

It’s a delicate balance.

Where do you need a wall placed for your protection?

But where can you carve out doors and windows that will let in light and fresh air and friendship?

Grow in boundary setting with me?

Father, You were the very first to set up boundaries. You established physical boundaries in creation, and moral boundaries with Your laws. Teach us to follow Your direction while setting up our own ‘property lines’ with appropriate fences with gates, and walls with doors and windows. Give us wisdom as we practice living safely while allowing Your goodness to flow in. Amen.

Published by melodylowes

I am actually a bit of a mess. But in the mess, I’m finding security in knowing I am chosen, I am forgiven, and I matter. After uncovering a history of abuse in my past, I have done a lot of healing - and writing is one way I can invite you deeper into your own healing journey! I write devotionals about the complicated thing called life at growing-in-grace.ca, and my poetry is stashed at melodylowes.com. Pull up a chair and a coffee or tea and let's grow together!

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