“And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.”
‭‭Philippians‬ ‭4:8‬ ‭


You know. As opposed to untrue.

I don’t know about you, but my thoughts can – er, wander.

As in, walk away from what is actually happening to what my brain can invent on the fly.

I’m talking to a friend who mentions a friend of a friend who lost her husband. I’m silent. I’m thinking about Hubby, and how much he does for me, and how much I love him. I’m already thinking about how sad I’d be if anything happened to him.

I’m imagining selling the house. Deciding where to live. Wondering whether I would quit my job. Serving egg salad sandwiches at the funeral.

It’s so real, my mascara is in danger.

Those wandering thoughts of mine.

They can go from a conversation about someone I don’t even know to planning a funeral in about 6.3 seconds.

They can do more than that.

They can help me invent whole conversations that never happened.

They can perform amazingly athletic feats as they twist and turn and dodge and make leaps of logic – or non-logic, as the case may be, until I’m angry, or exhilarated, or panic-stricken, without breaking a sweat.

So this reminder to stick to what is true is just as much for me as for y’all, y’all.


Our mental health hinges upon a solid grip on reality. Not being able to distinguish between reality and fantasy can cause all sorts of ‘isms’ and shake our internal stability.

Is it true?

If it is worth your thinking time, it ought to be.

Real. True. Rooted in reality.

Who are we to put thoughts and words in someone else’s mind and mouth? Who are we to project our own angst onto others?

I am an avoider.

It’s easier to deal with what is imagined than to tackle what is real head on.

But I am learning that it is better to ask for clarification than to imagine the worst, to seek relationship over projecting blunted emotions where they have no place.


Is it true?

If it isn’t, is it worth your energy?

There’s enough in this life to be concerned about without inventing new reasons to worry.

Learn to think on what is true with me?

Father, You value truth because Your nature is entirely honest – Your very character is anchored in what is true. Teach us to step closer to the truth in our thought patterns. Amen.

Published by melodylowes

I am actually a bit of a mess. But in the mess, I’m finding security in knowing I am chosen, I am forgiven, and I matter. After uncovering a history of abuse in my past, I have done a lot of healing - and writing is one way I can invite you deeper into your own healing journey! I write devotionals about the complicated thing called life at, and my poetry is stashed at Pull up a chair and a coffee or tea and let's grow together!

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