Bibbity Bobbity Boo

“And now, dear brothers and sisters, one final thing. Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.”
‭‭Philippians‬ ‭4:8‬ ‭

Isn’t this little sweet?

I think she’s lovely. So are flowers, mountain hikes, romantic gestures, friendship. Pay checks. Sunshine. Coffee on a patio in the spring.

Ahhhhhhhh. Beautiful, all of them.

Then there’s the opposite – the ‘unlovely’. Racism, littering, selfishness, power struggles. Real downers, those.

The little downtrodden girl who sat in the ashes and served her hideous stepsisters comes to mind.

Enter your assignment.

Have you thought about your thinking lately?

Done any mental checkups?

I know. You don’t have time. You’re busy. But this is important. If you and I don’t take stock of our thoughts at regular intervals, we can’t recognize patterns that need change. And if we don’t recognize any patterns that need change, our behaviours and choices will be made out of a place we can’t afford to stay in.

Are your thoughts ugly?

Or beautiful?

I can tell you this – when I’m tired, or sore, or have a headache, my thoughts are certainly not pretty. When I’m faced with a challenge, I tend to grumble and crumple all at once.

I grumple.

It takes discipline and a lot of hard practice to keep your thoughts trained on what is true and honourable and pure and lovely – especially when your circumstances are icky.

How much practice have you deliberately entered into to switch your thoughts from ugly stepsister mode to Cinderella mode?

And no, it’s not exactly as simple as the wave of a wand and some cute catch phrase magic words. But the principle remains the same – those habits of seeing the ugly and focusing in on the awful can be flipped.

Cinderellaized, if you will.

I’m so not there yet.

I’m painfully aware that my own thought processes storm through my day as ugly stepsisters.

But I’m working on it. I’m aware of the feeling of helplessness that comes when I focus on how big the problem is, and forget how big God is. I know that tension in the shoulders that builds up when I look at the giant and forget I’m holding a slingshot. That anxiety that weighs so heavy on my chest when I feel like it’s all up to me, and I have to do it all on my own, before I remember that I’m really Cinderella, a princess who has the resources of the King of the castle behind her.

So – bibbity, bobbity, boo!

No more ugly stepsisters.

With some practice, we can learn to transform our thinking. We can take a breath, and remember that we don’t have to do all this on our own. We can take our tricky situations to the King of the castle, and rely in His wisdom and resources.

This is not just denying reality and pretending our problems don’t exist. It’s not ignoring the tough stuff. Neither is it living in a fantasy world.

But it is learning how to bring our troubles to God, and choosing to trust Him to help us handle whatever is before us.

Think beautiful thoughts with me today?

Father, life here is tough – it isn’t any Fairytale. Remind us that when things get tricky and our problems loom large that You are in charge and capable – and ready to help us learn to think about the situation in new and healthy and balanced ways. Amen.

Published by melodylowes

I am actually a bit of a mess. But in the mess, I’m finding security in knowing I am chosen, I am forgiven, and I matter. After uncovering a history of abuse in my past, I have done a lot of healing - and writing is one way I can invite you deeper into your own healing journey! I write devotionals about the complicated thing called life at growing-in-grace.ca, and my poetry is stashed at melodylowes.com. Pull up a chair and a coffee or tea and let's grow together!

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